The flow 流れ
10 minutes per arm, then swap. Four rounds, about 40 minutes together. No experience needed: go slower than you think.
- Giver reads the step and asks the questions. Receiver just breathes and answers.
- Firmer going up the arm, lighter coming down. Keep one hand on them the whole time.
- After both arms, switch seats and tap the other name.
Questions 問い
Showing the Playful set. Ask one, then really listen. No fixing, just hearing.
When it's your turn to receive, you can answer, pass, or just say "more of that, please."
Before you start 気遣い
Thirty seconds that make it better for both of you.
- Ask about sore spots, injuries, or anything to skip. Skip it, no questions asked.
- Talk pressure. Receiver says "softer" or "more" any time. Start gentle.
- Go light on the inside of the elbow and inner upper arm.
- Avoid bruises, varicose veins, and anything red, hot, or swollen.
- No oil? Unscented lotion works. A towel on the lap keeps it tidy.
- Set the room: phones down except this one, soft light, a song you both like.